There is a partially read copy of Ekhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now” on my night stand. I am just far enough into it to know that to be enlightened, I should be ok with its partially read status and not worry about whether or not I will actually ever get to finish it.
I am not a new mother. I am four years in, and I have a lot of scars to prove it. But I also have so many more blessings than I ever knew were possible. In the early days, I was in a state of waiting…
…waiting until they slept through the night. (Still don’t.)
…waiting until they went to bed. (Ditto.)
…waiting until I could take a shower without interruption. (Do you see a pattern here?)
I was in a similar holding pattern with my job, my health, and pretty much every other aspect of my life. I was just waiting out my life. Bleak, right?
Only very recently have I figured out that it’s ok if everything is not completely siloed, and I can’t tell you how much happier everyone in my family has been, most of all me.
The myth of having it all: the perfect job, the perfectly clean and organized house, the perfectly behaved, well-rested, children – pursuing that is exhausting. Once I was ok with things getting a little messy (metaphorically and sometimes literally), a whole new world opened up.
So what if the kids run circles around the kitchen island while I put the dishes away? Beats waiting until they finally fall asleep at some dreadful hour to do them and being resentful of having to spend my time that way.
Can’t find time to get to a yoga class this week? We’ll all do it together. The baby may decide it’s fun to use my downward dog as a bridge she can crawl under, but it’s great for all of us. Or maybe, we’ll fire up the Xbox for a fun Zumba class. Or crank up the Frozen soundtrack (or the BlackEyedPeas) and dance it out.
Don’t get me wrong, I need “me” time. We all do. But I’m getting better about figuring out a few life hacks that help me get through those times when it’s not possible. I’m not always so great at this. There are days when I want nothing more than 5 minutes of time that is not allocated to someone else’s needs, but those days are fewer and further between because I am doing what I need to do to enjoy the moment I’m in right now – whatever that moment might be.
To me, this is balance. How do you find balance in your life?